vintage-ford-1209620_1920The old saying “opposites attract” is absolutely true but can these two opposites have a long lasting relationship? When I am talking about ‘opposites’ I do not mean you have some differences and also share some common things. I mean down right opposite. One is educated and the other is not. One may be financially stable and the other is completely in debt. One may live a simple life in the country and the other enjoys the cultures and available opportunities of the city life. These two can see something in the other that is magical and so different that initially, the magnetic attraction is undeniable and sustainable in that moment.

Being complete opposites can be both good and bad. You may have crazy chemistry with someone different from you as you crave that part of them you do not have. The unknown and something completely new to you can be very attractive and create a fiery chemistry between you both. A city girl, for example, may find peace and good ole’ southern comfort in a backwoods country boy. The city girl sees it as refreshing having a more traditional relationship with this southern gentleman. The backwoods country boy treats her like a fairy tale princess. The country boy may find the city girl interesting and exciting as she is not like anyone he has ever known before.

Physical attraction combined with being complete opposites can be the beginning of one of the most passionate love affairs you will ever experience. During this time, you live in the moment and nothing else matters but your new found love of your opposite. Getting to know this person can be exciting as you live in their footsteps (or boot steps in this case) and them in yours. You find what you are missing in your own life in your new found opposite mate. You crave what the other has to offer and the feeling this gives you is so euphoric you ignore the realities.

The truth is combining two completely different lives is not only complex but can be intimidating to one or both people in this new found relationship. Fitting in each other’s worlds can be difficult especially for the country boy. You can not take the country out of the boy and the city girl would not want this as that is what she finds so attractive about him. As much as she may try to make him feel comfortable in her world it is just all too much. Her world is not only so completely different from his, but also undesirable and intimidating to the country boy. He greatly admires her successes, confidence, and beauty. However, these same qualities he loves and adores about the city girl are also exactly what intimidates this country boy and brings him a feeling of not being able to measure up. The country boy does not feel he is good enough for the city girl and he begins to put up his walls and shy away from these insecurities and his fairy tale princess.

The city girl has an easier time fitting in and she feels at home in the arms of this country boy. She finds the country life and people peaceful and a solitude away from her busy life. She enjoys everything from the welcoming southern accent and hospitality, country foods to that home sweet home feeling with his family. Her confidence she carries herself with can carry her through the adjustment to a more subdued laid back lifestyle. Whereas, the country boy does not have as easy of a time adjusting from his simple hard working lifestyle to that of which the city girl lives.

In the end, opposites do attract in the most magnetic of ways. However, unless both are willing to make the effort and communicate through the things that can pull them apart nothing can hold these two together…not even the strongest of love. It is possible in the end for these two complete opposites to have the most amazing love together when they hold close to them what matters most and that is each other. If the backwoods boy and the fairy tale princess can learn to love each other for their differences and help each other work though their vulnerabilities and fears they can stick together through thick and thin until the end. Unfortunately, many people allow their fears to overcome them and the relationship ends before it can ever truly begin.

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